Tourists in my timeline

Satellite Social Media tourists...

Today I’ve been thinking on the people we keep around. Not just who likes our posts or shows up at the party, but who really engages when it counts. Not for performance, not for rebuttal, not for ego points just real connection.

It’s easy to assume that shared history means shared alignment. But more often, people stick around not because they value what you say, but because your voice gives them something to argue with. A chance to feel relevant. A chance to correct. A story to tell behind your back.

I keep bringing this up as a reminder often for myself because it’s easy to question your stance when the crowd starts forming against you. I’ve had people unfriend me, then paint their own version of the story within their chosen quorum. That’s fine. Let them have their echo chamber.

There’s wisdom in what I believe Socrates said about not being trapped in a room full of like-minded voices. I get it. Growth comes from challenge. But there’s a big difference between genuine challenge and someone just hanging around waiting to pounce. Between thoughtful discourse and lurking for conflict.

Some people aren’t friends. They’re satellites. Drifting close when there’s noise to feed on, silent when it’s joy, family, or anything with real depth. They’re not your people. They’re just tourists in your timeline.

Choose your circle wisely. Disagreement is healthy. But don’t confuse spectators with supporters.

And seriously don’t follow me or friend me just to be a satellite. I’m not interested. Don’t hover in silence until there’s something controversial to jump on, acting like dropping a comment somehow makes you relevant again. If you’re here, then be here. Let’s have real conversations. Insightful exchanges. Ask questions. Be curious. Don’t just parachute in when you think it’s your moment to lecture.

I prefer deep thinkers. People who connect beyond conflict. And it’s funny because the ones who love to argue are usually the same ones who never engage with the posts that actually matter. My kids. My adventures. The quiet, meaningful stuff.

If your only contribution is commentary during controversy, maybe ask yourself why you’re really here.